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Today is the seventh day of the seventh lunar month. In the ancient myths and legends of China, on this day, the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl met on the Magpie Bridge, and all shall be well. On this Valentine’s Day in China-Chinese Valentine’s Day, what love stories do you think of in China’s literary works?

Braised cat head in red wine:

Recalling the descriptions of love in China’s literary works I have read, I will think of a novel that is not about love, and that is Ba Jin’s Home. Among them, the emotional entanglement about eldest brother Chueh-hsin and cousin Mei once touched me very much. Because of the objective reasons of parents’ orders, the words of the matchmaker and the subjective reasons of Chueh-hsin’s cowardice, they finally got married separately. Like the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl, the two of them were torn apart by family arrangements and some traditional ideas. When they got married separately, there was no way to enter a new happy family life because this love was not perfect. In the end, their ending was very bleak and ended hastily with eternal regret.

But in the novel, I think their love description is very touching. In the book, eldest brother always likes to wander in the plum trees. There are always a few bottles of plum blossoms in his room, and he will beg his wife to draw a picture of the canopy with the theme of plum blossoms. He loves plum blossoms so much, and the inside is clear at a glance-only because the plum grove has the same name as cousin Mei, and only because it always reminds eldest brother Chueh-hsin of the people in his heart. Chueh-hui almost said something like "Be careful that this plum blossom is dividing the love of big brother" in front of her eldest sister-in-law. When people in Sri Lanka can no longer meet with love as before, the symbol "Mei" has become a symbol of people who have loved but missed, which has been emphasized intentionally or unintentionally by eldest brother in life, and has become an indelible part of life in another form. There are always brothers and sisters who advise them: just forget the past and don’t torture themselves with it, but how can this feeling be forgotten so easily with a sad face and an empty heart? These implicit, sad, but very beautiful, unspeakable feelings, I think to some extent, in line with Chinese’s expression of love. We know that it is impossible for them to be together-they can only end in tragedy for various reasons-but when we see these unspeakable sad thoughts, we will forget Chueh-hsin’s cowardice, all kinds of dissatisfaction and accusations against his indecision at this moment, and we will only be deeply moved by their deepest feelings. In a sense,This also conforms to the literary and dramatic characteristics of the tragic beauty of love.

Cousin Mei in the TV series Family Spring and Autumn Based on Ba Jin’s novel.

Senior leader monkey:

Ask lotus root how much silk it has, and lotus knows who it is suffering for. The two flowers are charming and opposite, just the children of the old family. It’s already allowed. If you don’t teach, you will live and die. The sunset is speechless. In the smoke of thanking guests, the Xiangfei River is not heartbroken.

Sweet dreams, fortunately, Ganoderma Lucidum. The world is pitching today and tomorrow. The sea dries up and the rocks crumble, and you hate not to bury the loess. Acacia trees, flowing in the year, are mistaken by the west wind for no reason. Lan Zhou lives less. I am afraid of carrying wine again, my red dress is half down, and I am lying in the wind and rain.

I recently read the love poems in China literature, and I was most impressed by Yuan Haowen’s two "Touching the Fish". I quote the second song here: "Touch the fish and ask the lotus root how much silk there is".

You may be familiar with the first song: Touching Fish and Yanqiu Ci, because Mr. Jin Yong quoted this word in his The Condor Heroes. When Li Mochou died, he sang the song "Touching Fish and Yanqiu Ci" in the fire: "What is the love in the world?". This word can also represent the theme of the whole book "The Condor Heroes": questioning about love.

Stills of TV series "The Condor Heroes"

This song "Touch the fish and ask the lotus root how much silk there is" is a companion piece of Yanqiu’s ci, and I like it very much. There is a word order before this word, which tells Yuan Haowen why he wrote this word. It comes from a story Yuan Haowen heard: During the Taihe period, there was a young man and a woman who fell in love with each other, but their families opposed it, and they both died. There is also some legend in this story. At that time, the government went to look for their bodies, but they were not found. Later, someone accidentally found their bodies in the water. Then, in the summer of this year, in the lotus pond where two people drowned, all the lotus flowers became a symbol of love.

This word is also very touching. There are not many descriptions of love in China’s literature, especially the poems about love between men and women, which are more descriptions of marriage. There are some poems about this kind of young men and women’s double suicide in China’s poetry tradition, such as Peacock Flying Southeast in our high school, but most of the time this kind of poems appear in folk Yuefu, in the form of folk singing. Yuan Haowen, as a literati, wrote such a story in words, which is actually rare. Ci is a new Yuefu. I think Yuan Haowen’s first word really echoes the traditional theme of Yuefu, that is, the pursuit of love and the praise of love in human nature.

Zhang Yong, the father of success:

When it comes to love in China literature, I always think of Li Wenxiu. The whole book "White Horse Whistling in the West Wind" seems to be talking about all kinds of unrequited love, and the only lover in two of a kind is not the protagonist. The protagonist Li Wenxiu is in love with one of the lovers. Some people kill their rival in love and get revenge from their loved ones, while others kill their loved ones, and if they can’t get it, they will be destroyed. What can she do? "If you deeply love someone, but you deeply love someone else, what can you do?" Li Wenxiu chose to fulfill and protect them, not to disturb them, and left the desert where the north wind blows the yellow sand with a white horse and went to the south of the Yangtze River alone. Two of a kind is not the only one who is in love. Li Wenxiu loves Sup, but he doesn’t expect to get his return. Love is not an equivalent exchange. There is nothing to do, no solution, and no escape. She wants the person she loves to be happy and wants him to be happy.

"There are willows, peach blossoms, swallows and goldfish in the south of the Yangtze River … among the Han people, there are handsome and brave teenagers, charming and handsome teenagers … but this beautiful girl is as stubborn as the ancient Gao Changguo people: they are all very good, but I don’t like them."

No matter how good other people are, it has nothing to do with me. I have never forgotten each other since I was here. This kind of love that transcends worldly possessiveness will never stop.

Dreron who lost his naming rights:

In a few words in The Legend of Flying Fox, it is not difficult to see Cheng Lingsu’s growing environment: he was humiliated by his family since he was a child (a girl can lose the mirror of the whole family, and it is not difficult to imagine what harm he did to Cheng Lingsu); Less than ten years after he was admitted by Master Wu Chen, Master died. He was always on the lookout for three brothers and sisters with ulterior motives and a more dangerous martial uncle, Shi Wanchen. At this moment, Pei Hu, who really cares about her, is undoubtedly a star in her life. Before Cheng Lingsu can see a better world, the girl’s affection has been firmly tied to Pei Hu. Quite absurdly, this love affair not only brought Cheng Lingsu great emotional hurt, but also led to her death. Utilitarian, it’s hard to say which is more dangerous, Pei Hu or her brothers and sisters.

Perhaps in another universe, Pei Hu meets Cheng Lingsu and Yuan Ziyi in a reversed order, and Cheng Lingsu’s love can get more feedback, but it is possible after all. There is no doubt that there is a big problem with Pei Hu’s handling of feelings. When he was singing with blacksmith Wang, he had vaguely understood Cheng Lingsu’s feelings for him. However, looking at his behavior throughout the book, he never faced up to the existence of this feeling before Cheng Lingsu died, and even pushed her into an inseparable position by becoming sworn brothers and sisters. Jin Yong is also cruel. He rarely lets his protagonist fall into an emotional dilemma, so he has to let Cheng Lingsu die.

Hu Fei in Flying Fox of Snowy Mountain changed his waywardness in The Legend of Flying Fox and became depressed, so it is easy to think of Chen Jialuo in the same world view. The living are always more likely to attract attention, but a wisp of game-writing protocol hidden under them is always ignored.

Flying Fox of Snowy Mountain stills of TV series

Kuang Kuang:

See this topic, I think of Gui Youguang’s "A Ridge Xuan Zhi".

The first time I read this article was in a high school Chinese textbook. Gui Youguang took Xiang Jixuan as the timeline to record the changes of "Gezi" and some family chores. His brushwork is extremely light, but his feelings are beyond words and endless. I have the deepest impression on the memory and love for my dead wife shown in the last two paragraphs, which he added as a postscript 13 years later. Every time I read that "there is a loquat tree in my family, and my wife planted it in her hand when she died, it is so graceful now", it always makes my heart suddenly empty.

Gui Youguang recorded the daily scenes of reading and chatting with his wife, just like those warm and simple pictures that will appear in each of our homes. I always read all kinds of vigorous, lively and gorgeous love stories, and cried and laughed with the protagonist, almost forgetting that there are more people whose love is dull or even ordinary, and eventually it will become family ties. But this kind of love is also very touching. From Gui Youguang’s words, I can imagine that he and his wife occasionally looked up and smiled at each other when they were reading at their desks, and they saw each other’s beautiful appearance; From the curious words of his wife and sister, "I heard that my sister’s family has a pavilion, and what is a pavilion?", imagine his wife returning to her mother’s house and talking about her daily proud and shy smile with her husband; You can see Gui Youguang’s sighing after his wife’s death.

Everyday calm and trivial love is true and deep.

Loquat tree has grown up, with his love and yearning for his wife.

　　May 20th is the Valentine’s Day on the Internet. On this day, many people will express their love to their loved ones, but some people will keep their love in their hearts and secretly love each other. So, what about college students’ unrequited love? How many college students have had a secret crush? Will you tell your secret crush? What impact will unrequited love have on study and life? What will you do when your confession is rejected?

　　A few days ago, China Youth Network Campus News Agency conducted a questionnaire survey among 859 college students in China. The results show that more than 80% of college students have had a secret love, and they like the opposite sex with sincere and kind heart, good temperament and high value. Nearly half of the students are unwilling to confess, and "the other party regards themselves as friends" and "the other party is too good to deserve the other party" are the main reasons for students not to confess; More than 30% of students think that secret love will make their study and life better, and more than 80% of students will choose to make themselves excellent through hard work during their secret love. Over 50% of the students don’t regret not confessing, and nearly half of them give up their secret love because their confession is rejected.

　　More than 80% had a secret love, and they liked the opposite sex with sincere heart, good temperament and high value.

　　How many college students have had a secret crush? According to the survey, 81.14% of college students said they had a secret crush, while 11.76% said they had never had a secret crush.

　　Chen Huilin, a student from hubei engineering university, said that his squad leader was handsome and cheerful. When he first entered the university, he had a good impression on him. "Every time I carry out class activities, I can’t help glancing at him with the corner of my eye, being careful, for fear of being discovered. Looking at him will make me feel very comfortable."

　　Yan Huang, a student of Chengdu University of Traditional Chinese Medicine, talked about his secret crush. "He is a very talented person, and he is kind, careful and patient. In life and study, it has helped me a lot. I have secretly liked him for two years. During these two years, I found that he is getting better and better, and I have always buried my love for him in my heart. "

　　What are the advantages of the crush on college students? The survey shows that the secret admirers are sincere and kind in heart, good in temperament and high in face value, with 72.53%, 70.31% and 69.15% respectively. In addition, 62.98% of college students choose to "have common topics and hobbies"; 62.05% choose to be self-motivated; 61.35% chose to be talented; 54.48% have strong selection ability; 50.06% chose excellent grades; However, only 21.65% of college students choose from a good family.

　　Wang Rong, a student at Yibin College, said that unrequited love is beautiful, just like waiting for the epiphyllum to bloom at night, which is both nervous and excited and afraid of disappointment. "He will feel very comfortable just staying with a kind person, and at the same time he will be infected by the other person’s heart, making himself like the other person, and there is a feeling of slowly approaching him. Although I will also pay attention to the face value and temperament, the advantage of the other party is the infinite motivation to make myself better. "

　　"Everyone likes beautiful things. At first glance, he was amazed by his appearance, but then I found that he was serious in everything, devoted himself wholeheartedly, positive in doing things, would not cheat, and was very strict with himself." Jiang Yu, a student of Hope College of Southwest Jiaotong University, said that he only wants to silently guard the object he secretly loves. It is enough to see him and pay attention to him.

　　Nearly half of them are unwilling to confess, and "the other party regards themselves as friends" is the main reason for not confessing.

　　Will college students confess their secret love? According to a survey conducted by China Youth Network, 52.62% of college students choose to confess their secret love, while 47.38% choose not to.

　　Chen Shu of Chengdu University of Information Science and Technology believes that if you like it, you should say it out loud. "It’s a wonderful thing to like someone. If you just have a crush and never dare to take a step, then the two of you are doomed to miss it. Now that we are all in college, love is normal, and we will not regret it if we pursue it bravely."

　　"If you say it, it’s not a secret love. I like the feeling of secret love." Tan Li, a student at Sichuan Agricultural University, feels that some love has not been put in my heart. "It is very beautiful to love someone silently in my heart. If you take the initiative to confess, you will not feel this way. If you are rejected, you will easily become friends."

　　So, what are the reasons why college students are unwilling to confess? 54.95% and 54.83% of college students choose "the other person only regards himself as a friend" and "the other person is too good to deserve him" respectively; 46.8% chose to "wait for a suitable confession opportunity"; 37.6% said that "the other party has a lover"; 27.36% "afraid that falling in love will delay the development of both sides"; 17.46% think that "love costs a lot and economic conditions do not allow it"; Only 8.85% of them are "people around them are opposed to falling in love".

　　Li Zhixiu, a student of Chengdu Vocational College of Agricultural Science and Technology, said that he once had a crush on a science student "Xueba" in high school. "I liked him for three years, but I dare not confess. For him to choose science and for him to repeat, it is really immature and naive to think of it now. However, I felt that he was very good in all aspects during my three-year crush. Finally, I sent him a handwritten letter to thank him for illuminating my high school."

　　Wu Ji, a student of Chengdu University, told reporters that he felt inferior since he was a child and was a "little transparent" who dared not take the initiative to meet strangers. However, when he arrived at the university, he saw a girl. From the very beginning, he secretly paid attention to her in class, and then he pretended to sit beside her randomly, creating countless encounters at school. The closer Wu Ji gets to her, the more she finds that she is getting better and better, friendly and straightforward …… "I want to confess to her when I can be worthy of her one day, and I will continue to grow and try to catch up with each other’s footsteps."

　　Super 3 causes unrequited love to become better, and over 80% choose to make themselves excellent through hard work.

　　What impact will unrequited love have on college students’ study and life? According to the survey, 34.49% of college students’ study and life are better because of secret love, 35.04% think it has no effect, and 30.27% say that secret love has caused trouble to their study and life.

　　On the other hand, what have college students done for their secret admirers? According to the survey, 82.19% of college students choose to "make themselves excellent", 72.06% try to understand each other’s hobbies and interests and find common topics, 60.65% secretly observe each other every day, 52.85% choose to "dress themselves up in appearance" and 35.39% take the initiative to contact each other every day.

　　Liu Yaqing, a student of anyang normal University, made herself grow up in a secret love. Liu Yaqing said that the draft of the boy he secretly loves is well written and his thinking is very meticulous, so he belongs to a particularly outstanding boy. "I took him as one of my beliefs at that time, and I wanted to work hard secretly to make myself better. I hope he can see me." Later, when they became familiar with each other, Liu Yaqing didn’t have the feeling of unrequited love, and they became good friends who talked about everything.

　　"My secret crush is in junior high school, but I actually like her after graduating from junior high school. She got good grades and got into the best local No.1 middle school, while I only got into No.2 middle school. At that time, I thought that if I could do better in the exam, I could be in the same school with her. " Lin Fansen, a student of Anhui Normal University, said that she had been working hard in high school, hoping to be admitted to the same university as her. However, after the results of the college entrance examination came out, she failed to be admitted to the undergraduate course. "And I was admitted to one, and then she went to my alma mater to re-read. Not long after, she told me that she was in love, and this unrequited love was declared over."

　　More than 50% don’t regret not expressing their love, and nearly half will give up their secret love because the other party refuses.

　　During the period of unrequited love, will those college students who missed the confession of their unrequited love regret it? According to the survey, 56.93% of college students have no regrets, while 43.07% have regrets.

　　Zeng Huiqing, a student of Zunyi Medical University, once missed her secret love, but she did not regret it. In high school, Zeng Huiqing didn’t express her thoughts to the boy she secretly loved. Once, she inadvertently found a girl in the chat background shared by the class, wearing military training clothes and looking very handsome. "The girl should be his girlfriend. I may be just a brother he likes, not his favorite girl type. I didn’t confess at that time, and I don’t regret it."

　　Zhang Jinghua, a student of Chongqing Jiaotong University, laughed at herself as a "black girl". Because the skin color is darker, I prefer boys who are white and clean. In her eyes, boys with white skin all have their own auras. "For a period of time, I did have a good impression on a boy, which was a kind of unrequited love, but it slowly disappeared. I am glad that I didn’t confess because of the impulse."

　　What do college students do when their secret love is rejected? The survey shows that 47.85% of college students will choose to give up directly after their confession is rejected; 40.28% of college students said that they would not give up, but they would silently guard each other; 11.87% of college students said that they would not give up and continue to find opportunities to express their feelings.

　　Chen Zhaowen, a student of Guangdong Medical University, suffered setbacks in her first unrequited love. "I like playing volleyball, but I play it badly. He plays volleyball very well. When playing volleyball, he looked at me with disdain, and I was very unconvinced. I practiced volleyball crazily and wanted to ‘ Catch up with ’ He. "

　　Finally, the two had feelings. One day, Chen Zhaowen summoned up the courage to confess to each other, but she was declined. Chen Zhaowen said that she was in a very bad mood for a while, but she gradually adjusted. "After this period of unrequited love, it became ‘ Ming Lian ’ After the failure, I feel that my psychology has become mature, and I don’t think about love. "

　　Li Chengxing, a student of Sun Yat-sen University, had a crush on a girl in her class when she was a sophomore. "I am a relatively introverted boy. I tried to write an article online, confess anonymously on the school confession wall, and then took screenshots to the class to hint. Later, Li Chengxing directly confessed to the other party, only to find that the other party had no feelings for him at all. He also thought that his behavior was naive, so he decisively gave up his secret love in his heart. "I know that the twisted melon is not sweet, and I don’t want to be so humble."

　　College teachers: Secret love should be regarded as a process of self-improvement and self-realization

　　Wang Xudong, secretary of the Youth League Committee of the School of Chemistry and Environment, Guangdong Ocean University, said that in view of everyone’s growth, individuals have reached physical maturity before and after junior high school, and gradually become psychologically mature after entering the university. Love is an important step towards psychological maturity, and it is the only way to cultivate a healthy and intimate relationship.

　　However, unrequited love is different from love, it is an individual’s unilateral feelings towards the other party. "From the psychological level, unrequited love is so common among college students that I feel there may be two reasons: first, ‘ Secret love ’ The beauty attached to itself; Second, ‘ Secret love ’ It is a unilateral emotion of the individual, which can be controlled and dominated by the parties and is controllable. " Wang Xudong said.

　　Wang Xudong believes that whether it is unrequited love, love or single, there are reasons for it. They are all independent choices of individuals and need respect and understanding. As a counselor, he suggested that college students should treat unrequited love correctly and regard it as a process of self-improvement and self-realization in order to meet their best selves.

　　Zheng Jijia, a teacher majoring in social work at Sichuan Agricultural University, believes that unrequited love is not a bad thing. It is a wonderful thing to have someone you like or be secretly liked by others. Sometimes you may lose some important people because of hesitation or fear. In fact, the only difference is to speak out bravely. It takes a lot of courage to speak out.

　　Regarding the view that students’ secret love affects their study and life, Zheng Jijia believes that dialectical thinking is needed. Some people will become better because of the excellent secret love object, but some people will also have a bad influence because of psychological dissatisfaction and other reasons. Therefore, it is still necessary to look at the secret love objectively and try to avoid or slow down its negative influence. (At the request of the interviewee, except Wang Xudong and Zheng Jijia, the other interviewees are pseudonyms.)

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