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Investigation on college students’ unrequited love： over 80% have had unrequited love, and nearly half are unwilling to confess.

　　May 20th is the Valentine’s Day on the Internet. On this day, many people will express their love to their loved ones, but some people will keep their love in their hearts and secretly love each other. So, what about college students’ unrequited love? How many college students have had a secret crush? Will you tell your secret crush? What impact will unrequited love have on study and life? What will you do when your confession is rejected?

　　A few days ago, China Youth Network Campus News Agency conducted a questionnaire survey among 859 college students in China. The results show that more than 80% of college students have had a secret love, and they like the opposite sex with sincere and kind heart, good temperament and high value. Nearly half of the students are unwilling to confess, and "the other party regards themselves as friends" and "the other party is too good to deserve the other party" are the main reasons for students not to confess; More than 30% of students think that secret love will make their study and life better, and more than 80% of students will choose to make themselves excellent through hard work during their secret love. Over 50% of the students don’t regret not confessing, and nearly half of them give up their secret love because their confession is rejected.

　　More than 80% had a secret love, and they liked the opposite sex with sincere heart, good temperament and high value.

　　How many college students have had a secret crush? According to the survey, 81.14% of college students said they had a secret crush, while 11.76% said they had never had a secret crush.

　　Chen Huilin, a student from hubei engineering university, said that his squad leader was handsome and cheerful. When he first entered the university, he had a good impression on him. "Every time I carry out class activities, I can’t help glancing at him with the corner of my eye, being careful, for fear of being discovered. Looking at him will make me feel very comfortable."

　　Yan Huang, a student of Chengdu University of Traditional Chinese Medicine, talked about his secret crush. "He is a very talented person, and he is kind, careful and patient. In life and study, it has helped me a lot. I have secretly liked him for two years. During these two years, I found that he is getting better and better, and I have always buried my love for him in my heart. "

　　What are the advantages of the crush on college students? The survey shows that the secret admirers are sincere and kind in heart, good in temperament and high in face value, with 72.53%, 70.31% and 69.15% respectively. In addition, 62.98% of college students choose to "have common topics and hobbies"; 62.05% choose to be self-motivated; 61.35% chose to be talented; 54.48% have strong selection ability; 50.06% chose excellent grades; However, only 21.65% of college students choose from a good family.

　　Wang Rong, a student at Yibin College, said that unrequited love is beautiful, just like waiting for the epiphyllum to bloom at night, which is both nervous and excited and afraid of disappointment. "He will feel very comfortable just staying with a kind person, and at the same time he will be infected by the other person’s heart, making himself like the other person, and there is a feeling of slowly approaching him. Although I will also pay attention to the face value and temperament, the advantage of the other party is the infinite motivation to make myself better. "

　　"Everyone likes beautiful things. At first glance, he was amazed by his appearance, but then I found that he was serious in everything, devoted himself wholeheartedly, positive in doing things, would not cheat, and was very strict with himself." Jiang Yu, a student of Hope College of Southwest Jiaotong University, said that he only wants to silently guard the object he secretly loves. It is enough to see him and pay attention to him.

　　Nearly half of them are unwilling to confess, and "the other party regards themselves as friends" is the main reason for not confessing.

　　Will college students confess their secret love? According to a survey conducted by China Youth Network, 52.62% of college students choose to confess their secret love, while 47.38% choose not to.

　　Chen Shu of Chengdu University of Information Science and Technology believes that if you like it, you should say it out loud. "It’s a wonderful thing to like someone. If you just have a crush and never dare to take a step, then the two of you are doomed to miss it. Now that we are all in college, love is normal, and we will not regret it if we pursue it bravely."

　　"If you say it, it’s not a secret love. I like the feeling of secret love." Tan Li, a student at Sichuan Agricultural University, feels that some love has not been put in my heart. "It is very beautiful to love someone silently in my heart. If you take the initiative to confess, you will not feel this way. If you are rejected, you will easily become friends."

　　So, what are the reasons why college students are unwilling to confess? 54.95% and 54.83% of college students choose "the other person only regards himself as a friend" and "the other person is too good to deserve him" respectively; 46.8% chose to "wait for a suitable confession opportunity"; 37.6% said that "the other party has a lover"; 27.36% "afraid that falling in love will delay the development of both sides"; 17.46% think that "love costs a lot and economic conditions do not allow it"; Only 8.85% of them are "people around them are opposed to falling in love".

　　Li Zhixiu, a student of Chengdu Vocational College of Agricultural Science and Technology, said that he once had a crush on a science student "Xueba" in high school. "I liked him for three years, but I dare not confess. For him to choose science and for him to repeat, it is really immature and naive to think of it now. However, I felt that he was very good in all aspects during my three-year crush. Finally, I sent him a handwritten letter to thank him for illuminating my high school."

　　Wu Ji, a student of Chengdu University, told reporters that he felt inferior since he was a child and was a "little transparent" who dared not take the initiative to meet strangers. However, when he arrived at the university, he saw a girl. From the very beginning, he secretly paid attention to her in class, and then he pretended to sit beside her randomly, creating countless encounters at school. The closer Wu Ji gets to her, the more she finds that she is getting better and better, friendly and straightforward …… "I want to confess to her when I can be worthy of her one day, and I will continue to grow and try to catch up with each other’s footsteps."

　　Super 3 causes unrequited love to become better, and over 80% choose to make themselves excellent through hard work.

　　What impact will unrequited love have on college students’ study and life? According to the survey, 34.49% of college students’ study and life are better because of secret love, 35.04% think it has no effect, and 30.27% say that secret love has caused trouble to their study and life.

　　On the other hand, what have college students done for their secret admirers? According to the survey, 82.19% of college students choose to "make themselves excellent", 72.06% try to understand each other’s hobbies and interests and find common topics, 60.65% secretly observe each other every day, 52.85% choose to "dress themselves up in appearance" and 35.39% take the initiative to contact each other every day.

　　Liu Yaqing, a student of anyang normal University, made herself grow up in a secret love. Liu Yaqing said that the draft of the boy he secretly loves is well written and his thinking is very meticulous, so he belongs to a particularly outstanding boy. "I took him as one of my beliefs at that time, and I wanted to work hard secretly to make myself better. I hope he can see me." Later, when they became familiar with each other, Liu Yaqing didn’t have the feeling of unrequited love, and they became good friends who talked about everything.

　　"My secret crush is in junior high school, but I actually like her after graduating from junior high school. She got good grades and got into the best local No.1 middle school, while I only got into No.2 middle school. At that time, I thought that if I could do better in the exam, I could be in the same school with her. " Lin Fansen, a student of Anhui Normal University, said that she had been working hard in high school, hoping to be admitted to the same university as her. However, after the results of the college entrance examination came out, she failed to be admitted to the undergraduate course. "And I was admitted to one, and then she went to my alma mater to re-read. Not long after, she told me that she was in love, and this unrequited love was declared over."

　　More than 50% don’t regret not expressing their love, and nearly half will give up their secret love because the other party refuses.

　　During the period of unrequited love, will those college students who missed the confession of their unrequited love regret it? According to the survey, 56.93% of college students have no regrets, while 43.07% have regrets.

　　Zeng Huiqing, a student of Zunyi Medical University, once missed her secret love, but she did not regret it. In high school, Zeng Huiqing didn’t express her thoughts to the boy she secretly loved. Once, she inadvertently found a girl in the chat background shared by the class, wearing military training clothes and looking very handsome. "The girl should be his girlfriend. I may be just a brother he likes, not his favorite girl type. I didn’t confess at that time, and I don’t regret it."

　　Zhang Jinghua, a student of Chongqing Jiaotong University, laughed at herself as a "black girl". Because the skin color is darker, I prefer boys who are white and clean. In her eyes, boys with white skin all have their own auras. "For a period of time, I did have a good impression on a boy, which was a kind of unrequited love, but it slowly disappeared. I am glad that I didn’t confess because of the impulse."

　　What do college students do when their secret love is rejected? The survey shows that 47.85% of college students will choose to give up directly after their confession is rejected; 40.28% of college students said that they would not give up, but they would silently guard each other; 11.87% of college students said that they would not give up and continue to find opportunities to express their feelings.

　　Chen Zhaowen, a student of Guangdong Medical University, suffered setbacks in her first unrequited love. "I like playing volleyball, but I play it badly. He plays volleyball very well. When playing volleyball, he looked at me with disdain, and I was very unconvinced. I practiced volleyball crazily and wanted to ‘ Catch up with ’ He. "

　　Finally, the two had feelings. One day, Chen Zhaowen summoned up the courage to confess to each other, but she was declined. Chen Zhaowen said that she was in a very bad mood for a while, but she gradually adjusted. "After this period of unrequited love, it became ‘ Ming Lian ’ After the failure, I feel that my psychology has become mature, and I don’t think about love. "

　　Li Chengxing, a student of Sun Yat-sen University, had a crush on a girl in her class when she was a sophomore. "I am a relatively introverted boy. I tried to write an article online, confess anonymously on the school confession wall, and then took screenshots to the class to hint. Later, Li Chengxing directly confessed to the other party, only to find that the other party had no feelings for him at all. He also thought that his behavior was naive, so he decisively gave up his secret love in his heart. "I know that the twisted melon is not sweet, and I don’t want to be so humble."

　　College teachers: Secret love should be regarded as a process of self-improvement and self-realization

　　Wang Xudong, secretary of the Youth League Committee of the School of Chemistry and Environment, Guangdong Ocean University, said that in view of everyone’s growth, individuals have reached physical maturity before and after junior high school, and gradually become psychologically mature after entering the university. Love is an important step towards psychological maturity, and it is the only way to cultivate a healthy and intimate relationship.

　　However, unrequited love is different from love, it is an individual’s unilateral feelings towards the other party. "From the psychological level, unrequited love is so common among college students that I feel there may be two reasons: first, ‘ Secret love ’ The beauty attached to itself; Second, ‘ Secret love ’ It is a unilateral emotion of the individual, which can be controlled and dominated by the parties and is controllable. " Wang Xudong said.

　　Wang Xudong believes that whether it is unrequited love, love or single, there are reasons for it. They are all independent choices of individuals and need respect and understanding. As a counselor, he suggested that college students should treat unrequited love correctly and regard it as a process of self-improvement and self-realization in order to meet their best selves.

　　Zheng Jijia, a teacher majoring in social work at Sichuan Agricultural University, believes that unrequited love is not a bad thing. It is a wonderful thing to have someone you like or be secretly liked by others. Sometimes you may lose some important people because of hesitation or fear. In fact, the only difference is to speak out bravely. It takes a lot of courage to speak out.

　　Regarding the view that students’ secret love affects their study and life, Zheng Jijia believes that dialectical thinking is needed. Some people will become better because of the excellent secret love object, but some people will also have a bad influence because of psychological dissatisfaction and other reasons. Therefore, it is still necessary to look at the secret love objectively and try to avoid or slow down its negative influence. (At the request of the interviewee, except Wang Xudong and Zheng Jijia, the other interviewees are pseudonyms.)

Hold the destiny of China’s development and progress firmly in your own hands.

　　CCTV News:In Report to the 20th CPC National Congress, General Secretary of the Supreme Leader also put forward nine essential requirements of Chinese modernization for the first time, namely, adhering to the Communist Party of China (CPC)’s leadership, adhering to Socialism with Chinese characteristics, achieving high-quality development, developing people’s democracy in the whole process, enriching people’s spiritual world, achieving common prosperity for all people, promoting harmonious coexistence between man and nature, promoting the construction of a community of human destiny and creating a new form of human civilization.

　　These nine aspects cover the practical requirements of modernization in economy, politics, culture, society and ecological civilization, and point out the leadership, practical path and global responsibility for realizing Chinese modernization.

　　Chinese-style modernization is not only the road of development, but also the direction of progress; Promoting the great rejuvenation of the Chinese nation in an all-round way with Chinese modernization is not only the way to realize the great rejuvenation of the Chinese nation, but also an encouraging goal in the history of the development of the Chinese nation.

　　Compared with the report of the 19th National Congress, Report to the 20th CPC National Congress gave us a clearer overall goal of Chinese modernization in 2035, including: the per capita GDP reached a new level and reached the level of moderately developed countries; Realize high-level scientific and technological self-reliance, build a modern economic system, form a new development pattern, and build a powerful country in education, science and technology, talents, culture, sports and healthy China. People’s lives will be happier and better, the per capita disposable income of residents will reach a new level, the proportion of middle-income groups will be significantly improved, and more obvious substantive progress will be made in all-round development of people and common prosperity of all people.

　　In the report, the General Secretary of the Supreme Leader emphasized that the next five years will be a crucial period for building a socialist modern country in an all-round way, and deployed key areas and tasks to promote Chinese modernization. Report to the 20th CPC National Congress also pointed out that we should maintain historical patience, persist in striving for progress steadily, step by step, and continue to advance; It is emphasized that the development of the country and the nation should be based on our own strength, and the destiny of China’s development and progress should be firmly in our own hands.

Health code, digitalization, power index … Big data escort to resume production.

　　Cctv news: "(epidemic prevention and control, resumption of work and resumption of production) It is very difficult to grasp both hands and be hard with both hands." Meng Gang, director of the Zhejiang Development and Reform Commission, said in an interview on February 20th, "But we in Zhejiang have the confidence, and the confidence comes from our ‘ One map, one code, one index ’ 。” The "one map, one code and one index" here refers to three "magic weapons" offered by Zhejiang relying on big data: five-color map of epidemic situation, personal health code and precise intelligent control index. Not only in Zhejiang, many places also use big data to escort the resumption of work and production.

　　Zhejiang+Big Data = One Map, One Code and One Index

　　On February 13th, in Hangzhou, Mao Cangpeng, a volunteer from Wenhui Street in Xiacheng District, was on duty at the subway station, and he recognized a yellow code rework worker, which means that the rework worker needs to be isolated at home for 7 days before he can officially return to work. The 13th is the first day of the official promotion of "Health Code" in Hangzhou. Facing the major test of epidemic prevention and control brought by the return of nearly 5 million people to Hangzhou, the implementation of "Health Code" has greatly improved the accuracy and efficiency of community epidemic prevention.

　　There are three kinds of "health codes": the green code can directly enter Hangzhou, the red code is isolated for 14 days, and the yellow code is isolated within 7 days. The "health code" management information system in Zhejiang Province is based on real data, connected with relevant databases such as the dynamic control list of key personnel, and distributed "health codes" according to the check and comparison results of the mass declaration information and background data. By the 20th, Zhejiang had issued more than 33 million "health codes", with a green code rate of over 96%.

　　At the same time, the red, orange, yellow, blue and green five-color "epidemic map" drawn according to the risk level has become a "staff map" for hierarchical management and control, and it is designed and released dynamically according to indicators such as the number of newly diagnosed cases and the incidence of agglomeration in each region. The "precise intelligent control index" consists of a control index consisting of five indicators, including new case control, and a smooth index consisting of seven indicators, including bus opening rate.

　　Beijing+Big Data = Digital Epidemic Prevention System

　　Also relying on "internet plus Big Data", Beijing Economic and Technological Development Zone recently launched the "Golden Shield of War and Epidemic" system.

　　The system has two modules: personal health report and institutional information report. Enterprises and residents can enter the corresponding modules according to the actual situation. After entering the information, they can generate an exclusive two-dimensional code. With this exclusive two-dimensional code, they can quickly enter communities, buildings or enterprises as long as their body temperature is measured.

　　At the same time, through the "Golden Shield of War and Epidemic" system, the basic information of all kinds of people in Beijing Economic and Technological Development Zone and the flow distribution of people returning to Beijing will be gathered into a visual data analysis to realize epidemic prevention, traceability and tracking. According to Zhang Jun, executive deputy director of the Propaganda and Culture Department of the Working Committee of the Development Zone, "This system has gathered the health information of nearly 40,000 residents in all communities within its jurisdiction and the real-time data of 1,098 enterprises above designated size. In addition to accurately empowering epidemic prevention and control, this system is conducive to our production and epidemic prevention, and will also make great achievements in social governance. "

　　Sichuan+Big Data = Power Index of Enterprises Returning to Work

　　Coincidentally, the State Grid Sichuan Electric Power Company recently released an analysis report entitled "Daily Monitoring Report on Power Index of Sichuan Enterprises’ Resumption of Work and Production", which uses the data of hundreds of thousands of users in various industries and regions in the province to analyze the electricity consumption of enterprises in the province and form the power index of enterprises’ resumption of work.

Distribution map of resumption of work by city and state as of February 16th.

　　The power index of enterprises’ resumption of work is an index formed by the power department by collecting the electricity consumption data produced by enterprises every day, comparing it with the electricity consumption during normal production in the history of enterprises, and analyzing it with big data, which can not only objectively and accurately reflect which enterprises have resumed work, but also reflect how much production capacity the enterprises have resumed. As of February 19th, Sichuan Electric Power Big Data has achieved real-time collection of electricity consumption data of 113,100 industrial and commercial users, and the cumulative daily processing number of the system exceeds 300 million.

Distribution map of resumption of production by city and state as of February 16th.

　　At the same time, State Grid Sichuan Electric Power also monitors the electricity consumption of nearly 200 designated hospitals in COVID-19 in real time. Once there is a hidden danger that may lead to power failure, it can dispatch personnel to eliminate it in time. (Text/Xie Botao)

Don’t be timid into the exposure of the top 10 murderous houses in Wuxi (Figure)

　　A suspense thriller "No.81 in Beijing" has made the wind of "haunted houses" blow all over the city, streets and alleys. Various "haunted houses" have filled the major media such as the Internet, magazines and WeChat for a time, and various topics about it have also exploded. Because the film was shot in Huishan ancient town, Wuxi, the topic of haunted houses has also aroused widespread concern among citizens in Xicheng.

　　In a broad sense, a "haunted house" generally refers to a vicious case that has occurred in a house and an abnormal death has occurred. Although "haunted house" is a superstitious saying, influenced by traditional ideas, many people are quite concerned about the ill fortune of houses, and it is based on this that many stories around "haunted house" have been staged one after another.

　　NO1．. New Century Cinema

　　Location: Next to Tianrunfa Supermarket, it is actually the Wuyue big wine spot next to it. It has never been opened after decoration, and it has been changed by several people.

　　NO2．. "Vertical tombstone and horizontal coffin"-Tianan Building

　　Location: Dayang Department Store on Zhongshan Road. It used to be an orphan’s garden here. It seems that it is true that it seems that S has had children, so the song "Sorry, Baby" will be played on the hour.

　　NO3．. Jiangjian Park

　　Location: It is said that a pedestrian was robbed and then killed under Jiangjian Bridge, and people sitting on the bench there will feel the evil wind at night.

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　　NO4．. Ginkgo Garden (Forum)

　　Location: Canal East Road, Xianli Bridge. I heard that Ginkgo Garden is also quite evil, because that place belongs to the intersection of three bridges, Jingui Bridge, Hongxing Bridge and Xianli Bridge. It is said that it is haunted. I also heard from my classmates that a person heard a woman cry at night and later sold the house there. There is a swimming pool in the community, which is haunted by ghosts in the middle of the night. So far, people often see it.

　　NO5．. Wuli New Village

　　Location: Chunshen Road and Ronghu South Road in Beitang District, a famous haunted place in Wuxi since the old society, have different opinions. I heard that there was a mass grave before liberation, and people often saw inexplicable things at night. There is a ballad to prove it: when you cross the outer suspension bridge (today’s Xinglong Bridge), people are few and ghosts are in power, wild dogs run everywhere, and bodies are thrown everywhere.

　　NO6．. Jiankang Road Stadium-Liangxi Bridge Section

　　In the old society, it was a mass grave outside Wuxi, and there were many ghosts along the way, including the city, the small wooden bridge, Li Shen Lane, and the front and back mud villages.

Wuxi today reduced the price of real estate.

　　The original price of Poly Central Park is 8500 yuan, and the special price is 8000 yuan [Details] [dynamic】 400-888-2200 to 50297

　　Mei man Jin yuan　Original price 6500 yuan, special price 5998 yuan [details] [dynamic】 400-888-2200 to 16363

　　Singapore Shangjincheng　Original price 8000 yuan, special price 7200 yuan [details] [dynamic】 400-888-2200 to 15168

　　Guoxin guanhuwan　Original price 7500 yuan, special price 7000 yuan [details】　【dynamic】 400-888-2200 to 15036

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　　NO.7 No.4 Hospital Old Ward Building-Traditional Chinese Medicine Hospital

　　There is no explanation. Many people died in an old hospital.

　　NO.8 Meilidu grant restaurant

　　Location: Next to Liangxi Bridge.

　　NO.9 Europe city

　　I heard that there was a bridge in the original European city called Jin, and the people who built the bridge were quite good. Later, a man went to lay marble, and as a result, he slept that night and never woke up, and nothing was found.

　　Gaodun Bridge near NO.10 International Hotel

　　Gaodun Bridge near the International Hotel, I heard that when the pile foundation of the bridge was being built at that time, one pile was broken when piling, and it never worked. Later, it really didn’t work, and 300 people were invited to cross over. Later, it went smoothly.

Wuxi today reduced the price of real estate.

　　The original price of Poly Central Park is 8500 yuan, and the special price is 8000 yuan [Details] [dynamic】 400-888-2200 to 50297

　　Mei man Jin yuan　Original price 6500 yuan, special price 5998 yuan [details] [dynamic】 400-888-2200 to 16363

　　Singapore Shangjincheng　Original price 8000 yuan, special price 7200 yuan [details] [dynamic】 400-888-2200 to 15168

　　Guoxin guanhuwan　Original price 7500 yuan, special price 7000 yuan [details】　【dynamic】 400-888-2200 to 15036

　　Guan shan Ming Zhu　The original price is 6688 yuan, and the special price is 6300 yuan/flat [details】　【dynamic】400-888-2200 to 15033

　　Due to the development of today’s society, whether buying a house or renting a house, if you can’t ask a teacher to investigate Feng Shui in time, you must pay attention to the following aspects that you can master independently:

　　(1) Avoid taking advantage of others.