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　　China Women’s Daily China Female Network reporter Fu Dongyan

　　It’s the beginning of the school season again. How will the freshmen of the millennial generation feel when they see the "Love Class" listed on the schedule? Is it longing or avoiding? Is it dismissive or full of expectations?

　　It is understood that at present, many colleges and universities have opened open classes or elective courses related to love. Some courses are crowded, while others have quietly disappeared. Relevant experts said that it is necessary to offer love courses for college students, but it is not so simple to teach students to "fall in love".

　　Popular love course in colleges and universities

　　The elective course "Psychology of Love" offered by the School of Public Administration of China University of Mining and Technology has been popular since it was offered. According to reports, on the online open course platform of the school, the number of hits of this elective course exceeded 1.2 million times, and the number of online elective courses exceeded 10,000.

　　As early as 2013, East China Normal University put "Love" into the classroom and opened an elective course called "Marriage and Love". The course was set for 84 students, and the actual registration was close to 500.

　　In September 2015, Zhengzhou Normal University opened an elective course of "Love Psychology", which was full once it was opened;

　　In March 2016, the love course named "Theory and Practice of Love Studies" of Tianjin University was officially opened, and the starting unit was the Youth League Committee, which accounted for two credits;

　　Nanjing University’s "Campus Love Open Class" consists of five lectures, including a love questionnaire survey and famous people commenting on love stories. In the love elective course of Southwest University of Political Science and Law, the teacher will teach some tricks of confession and chatting up, and writing love letters becomes one of the homework after class; Fudan University gave a wonderful lecture on "About Love" when teaching "Ideological and Moral Cultivation and Basic Law". After the video was released on the Internet, its popularity quickly exploded … …

　　In recent years, there are not a few colleges and universities offering love courses, which involve psychology, love skills, love economics, marriage and family.

　　"In fact, the content about love psychology is a part of the compulsory course of college students’ health education, but the general class hours are less." Xia Cuicui, an associate professor at the Student Psychological Counseling and Service Center of Beijing Normal University, said.

　　Beijing Normal University, which is good at psychology, has a long history of love course. As early as 2007, Xia Cuicui opened a course "Intimacy and Self-growth", in which love content is an important part. Later, due to work arrangements, this course ended, but Xia Cuicui will hold some group activities or lectures in this field from time to time.

　　Xia Cuicui said that love classes are generally offered in colleges and universities, which shows that colleges and universities are paying more and more attention to the psychological growth of college students, which is the embodiment that the state attaches importance to people’s mental health and people’s pursuit of a better life.

　　A necessary and beneficial course.

　　However, the reporter noticed that the related reports about setting up love classes in colleges and universities in Weibo attracted many netizens’ messages, with mixed opinions.

　　The supporters are in the mainstream:

　　@ Lu Kemin: It is just necessary for college students to establish a correct concept of love.

　　@ Dashan Community: There is a kind of people whose love concept is really incorrect. Schools should not only teach textbook knowledge, but also have correct guidance on emotional concepts, which can effectively reduce the crime rate and suicide cases.

　　@ Almost Far Away: It is very necessary to guide students to form a correct concept of love and marriage. Hiding it will only cause a lot of pain in the future.

　　@ 丫丫丫丫: Our country’s knowledge about love is generally learned from peers, and many of the knowledge of peers is inaccurate. Therefore, this course should have been opened long ago, but we must pay attention to the methods and not become chicken ribs.

　　There are also a few who oppose it:

　　@ Psychologist Mr Tang: The concept of love begins with values. It is better to read more books and learn more about the world.

　　@ 京京京京: Textbook-style love is definitely not practical. If everyone falls in love according to the textbook, then there is no need to fall in love. If you think the conditions are right, just get married.

　　@ ＠CHENJIANXING: Love varies from person to person and cannot be generalized.

　　@ ＠Twink: They are rich in theoretical knowledge, but they are likely to die in the cradle of love.

　　There are also some skeptics:

　　@ ＠MIN-Wolves: Will this work?

　　… …

　　"It is necessary and beneficial to offer courses related to love and marriage." Ke Qianting, an associate professor in the Chinese Department of Sun Yat-sen University and an expert in gender culture research, affirmed. She further explained that in the process of love and communication, there are often many conflicts, and college students are generally inexperienced in dealing with such conflicts, which can be resolved by understanding knowledge. For example, some people have the desire to control others and think that they love others, so they must control, harass and track them; For example, the more common breakup violence, etc., is theoretical, knowledgeable and methodological in these aspects.

　　"Now, the whole sociology pays great attention to people’s emotional research. Therefore, I think this course is very necessary, and I can tell students with theoretical knowledge how to understand the signals sent by the other party in communication. How to resolve misunderstandings and contradictions? How to respect others? Wait. " Ke Qianting said.

　　At the same time, she also stressed that teaching love knowledge is not to make you a master of love, but to let you know more about love, emotion and communication, and to be able to deal with specific problems in the future.

　　In this regard, Xia Cuicui’s point of view is that love-related courses may not be needed by everyone, but they can meet the needs of some people. "There are more girls in our normal university, so from the situation of consulting me at ordinary times, there are still quite a few students who need this part." For example, she said, for example, some students who are lovelorn can’t go out, some don’t know how to solve the love conflict, and some fail in love because of personal personality problems. "Such students need to solve their own problems through some learning."

　　Xia Cuicui said that the love course actually uses psychological methods to deepen self-understanding, explore self-growth experience and sort out the correct concept of love and marriage, so as to help college students better promote their love relationship and prepare for their future marriage and family life. "Correct education and guidance on love and marriage can cultivate a person’s ability to build a happy family and let more people live with quality."

　　In the interview, experts have affirmed the benefits of love courses for future marriage.

　　"During my college years, learning some theoretical knowledge will definitely help my family life in the future." Ke Qianting said that college students have the ability to analyze and reflect. Comparing theoretical knowledge with parents’ marriage in reality and romantic love seen on TV will guide their future love and marriage.

　　Put forward a big challenge to the teaching teacher

　　It is reported that the "Psychology of Love" in China University of Mining and Technology was taught by Professor Duan Xinxing, dean of the School of Public Administration and doctoral supervisor. She led a team of more than 10 professional teachers to jointly develop the course content. In order to get into the inner world of college students, Duan Xinxing spent a lot of time catching up with "young people’s things". Whenever she had time, she would chase plays at home, and she would never fall behind the popular online celebrity plays, online celebrity movies and variety shows.

　　"It is necessary to really talk about love." Xia Cuicui affirmed Professor Duan Xinxing’s dedication to the course: "Because there is no prescribed teaching material and syllabus for the love course, it is a test of the ability and dedication of the professor. How to better combine theory with practice? This poses a great challenge to the teacher. "

　　How should we teach the course of love? Xia Cuicui, who has many years’ teaching and consulting experience, believes that psychology courses are different from traditional courses. Teachers should not directly talk about what you should do, but should help them guide and summarize through the interaction between teachers and students, and convey some correct concepts and ideas. "And students’ gains vary from person to person and from class to class, but students will definitely gain something from courses that are really close to students’ needs."

　　Ke Qianting also said that at present, the research in this field in China is still superficial, and it takes time and energy to explore continuously.

　　Therefore, she suggested that teachers who teach this course should, first, take the needs of students as the leading factor, and teachers should understand what the current generation of young students think and need, and like Professor Duan Xinxing, meet the unique needs of students on the basis of investigation; Second, this is a very practical course, so we should not simply instill it, but let students participate in discussion and communication more. Third, this course should not only talk about some knowledge and methods of communication, but also convey a correct concept, the basis of which is to respect life. "This is the basic values and framework of this course. Only by truly understanding respect can we know how to love each other, which is the key to love and marriage. "

Teacher Li often praises the barbecue shop on the roadside.

I admit that I was attracted by the forwarding words in my colleague Teacher Y’s circle of friends, so I clicked on the link "Actor Li Liqun sent a video in Pudong, calling on everyone to unite against the epidemic".

Now living in Pudong New Area, Li Liqun, an old drama teacher, is a frequent visitor to Tik Tok. He often shows his life scenes as a novice "Uncle Shanghai". For example, my colleague was recommended by Li Liqun to plant grass in the barbecue shop. Li Liqun in the video, I hope everyone will cooperate with the government’s epidemic prevention work and not be a "black sheep". It’s very honest and brief, but it doesn’t seem to play the role of "Wang Wei". It’s more like the performance of countless Shanghai uncles. Although it’s hard to avoid being unwilling in my heart, I still obey the overall situation rationally.

Actor Li Liqun sent a video in Pudong, calling on everyone to unite against the epidemic.

After that, I clicked on a video forwarded by a friend who lives in Minhang District, "Actor wuyue cheers for his hometown Minhang and the frontline staff against the epidemic". Wuyue, a Shanghai-born actor, said, "The sudden epidemic has messed up our lives and made a person who is away from home particularly concerned. I hope that my favorite Shanghai, Minhang and my parents can survive the epidemic safely. "

In the video, wuyue’s plain face is facing the sky, the indoor light is a little dim, and the picture quality is a little slag, which completely loses the exquisiteness of the big star in the previous movie "Love Myth". However, it is this prickly picture texture that touches a certain place in my heart: wuyue is no longer a star. She is just an ordinary citizen living in Minhang District. She really has parents in Shanghai, and her parents are really undergoing the current test like us. The "caring" she said in the video is not a line, just like when I connected with my parents who were locked up in another community, although she didn’t say the word "caring".

Screenshot of wuyue cheering for his hometown Minhang.

Wuyue is cheering for Shanghai because she is from Shanghai; She is cheering for Minhang, because her home is in Minhang. Just like my friend forwarded this video because she really lives in Minhang.

Ma Yili, another Shanghai-born star, also cheered for Shanghai on the video. "I have relatives who are medical workers. I have been on the front line day and night these two days." She also said that her children have been taking classes online. A few words fill the Shanghai people’s sense of bringing in.

Li Liqun in Pudong, wuyue in Minhang, and Ma Yili in Xuhui are call calling for Shanghai. They are not far away from Shanghai. They are originally part of Shanghai, but the rough self-portrait quality constitutes the real presence.

Shanghai is not an abstract big Shanghai, but a concrete street, community and life circle belonging to concrete people. In the eyes of Shanghai residents, Shanghai is no longer the magic capital full of envy or curiosity in other people’s eyes. It is your favorite barbecue shop on the street, the fireworks of fried dough sticks and soy milk in the morning, the shade of phoenix trees that you will encounter when you go out in summer, or the hearty sound brought to you by the dozens of kilometers of plastic runway in Binjiang.

We often say "Shanghai is my home" and "Pudong is my home". If we break it down, we can also say "XX Street is my home" and "XX Community is my home", which are all my homes.

At this special moment, you can feel the sense of belonging in the community and streets more and more, which is the granularity of Shanghai identity.

Neighbors who are usually "unfamiliar" and have been nodding acquaintances for several years have become "close contacts" in life because of the closure of the community. The community has become an imaginary community of so many people: doing nucleic acids together, volunteering together, buying food together, looking forward to clearing it together, and waiting for the unblocking together.

I grabbed the vegetable bag under the order and gave a handful of green onions and a box of tomatoes to Zhang Apo, who lives alone. Please come home for dinner when you see that the children downstairs are unattended in online classes. Don’t forget to knock on the opposite door when you receive the news of going downstairs to do nucleic acid; Express delivery on the iron shelf at the entrance of the community, take the initiative to sign up as a volunteer; The group in the community shouted "XX medicine, who has inventory?" , you get a series of responses one after another … Help each other, unite as one, is a familiar word, but it shows the wonderful place of these words at this time.

Shanghai is experiencing an unprecedented test, and everyone in Shanghai hopes that this haze will disappear soon. Therefore, we must "work together to protect our homeland and our city".

There are so many people in this world, so lucky, I have a us. The world is so big, and I have a Shanghai. Because of love, I will cherish it, and because of love, I am willing to fight for it. Defending Pudong, Minhang and Xuhui … Defending Shanghai is nothing more than guarding your own home.

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